“I was adopted within the same family. My parents couldn't conceive. They tried everything but nothing worked for them. My family members were kind enough to give birth to a child for them. I was 5 when I stumbled upon my birth certificate, which had pictures of my biological parents on it. I remember crying and asking my mom why their picture was attached instead of my parents? She explained to me that they're my biological parents. When I was growing up my mother made it a point to be honest with me and have an open discussion regarding my adoption. She answered all the questions a 5-year-old would have and told me about my birth parents too. It felt normal. I didn’t feel confused or ashamed and it didn’t feel like a dirty secret because there was always an open dialogue between me and my parents. They created a safe place for me to ask them all my questions and not make me feel any different. So did my other family members too.
I have a great equation with my biological parents and siblings and for me, the only way to look at it is how grateful I am to be surrounded by people (my parents) who wanted me in their life with all their heart and others (my biological parents) who wanted to be a part of my life and their life too. I was blessed to have people around me who dint make me feel any different. However, in hindsight, I realised some of my issues might have stemmed from this. I always had low self-esteem and abandonment issues and talking to someone who was also adopted made me realise that it might have been a struggle because of this. Even though my family, especially my parents, was open about it, I think I had my own struggle in understanding and making sense of all this confusion. All said and done, I wouldn't have it any other way because my adoption, my parents, my family are the reason I'm becoming the person I am and on most days I'm happy with that.”
Rajshree is living in Mumbai, India with her parents where she’s working as a Chartered Accountant in the Aditya Birla Group in the Strategy & Business Planning Team. Keep up with her on Instagram @rajshreerathi.