Peter as a baby with his siblings
"I was adopted from the Society for Indian Children's Welfare home in Kolkata, in the year 1998. I was only two months old, so I have no recollection of it. My parents have always been open about my adoption, and have always tried their best to answer as many questions as I had. These questions include the usual' 'why did my birth mother leave, and where did I come from?'. Now, a 22-year-old, blessed beyond any desires, don't have any curiosity regarding my birth parents. The only question I would ask my parents and one that still resonates with me is "where am I really from?"
My blood-kin may have isolated me, but the fact that life guided me to the most loving parents and family is just evidence that the earth has blessed me whole. I was in grade 4 or 5 when I felt proud of my adoption. Elated, I went and told all my friends about my background, thinking they would share the joy with me. Little did I know that the beauty of adoption was perhaps too complicated for an 8-year-old to fathom. I never knew that their words "do you think adoption is something cool to joke about?" would make me feel embarrassed about my history for years to come by. Throughout my school days, I was reminded of the distance between myself and my family. How different I looked from my sister (who is the biological child of my parents), and how the rest of my family looked exactly alike. Little things like my blood group being different from my family, my hair texture being different from my family and even my skin colour being darker than my family- all fuelled a confusion, irritation and sadness for me. Little did I know this feeling of anger would later be replaced by a feeling of pride and comfort.
In my second year of college, I told my friends I was adopted. I shared posts about adoption and spoke about it openly. Not that didn't face strange questions and observations (I still do, haha), but when I did, the difference is that I openly accepted it, as I was proud of it."
Sana has been associated with the mental healthcare industry, focused on children with special needs. Keep up with her journey on Instagram @sanak_